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Monday, August 19, 2013

Cool To Be Rude?

Why is suddenly cool to be rude to people?

When Michael Jackson died, some people actually cheered. While you might not like him or his music, this was still a person, a human being; a son, a brother, a father. People who cheer when another human being dies is just insensitive. Then of course, to make things worse, were those who kind of came to their defense, saying they were just stupid "kids", which must make it okay or something. Being a kid is no excuse. I know lots of kids who don't need to use rudeness to make a comment or statement. And it's not just kids who do this, I know plenty of adults who can be just immature.

On another forum, someone wrote off a rude answer as "just kidding" which had nothing to do with the topic. Then someone else answers saying the comment wasn't as bad as others have been. That makes it alright?

On yet another group, someone posted using the title "I Love You Like a Fat Kids Loves Cake" and then had the audicity to add ... "I do not mean offense to anyone "fat"". Oh, okay, that makes it alright then. If you don't mean to offend people, then don't offend people.

And still another... "Women over 35 look silly with long hair". This person took on themselves to make a judgment call on people based on some twisted opinion. And if they say it, it must be true. They went on to also say that people with short hair have cleaner and healthier hair than people with long hair. And they know this, how?

What causes these kinds of comments? I know we have the freedom of speech in this country, but there needs to be a little bit of responsibility as well. You can't just say whatever you want and then say, "oh, oops, sorry, no offense." Saying you're sorry afterwards doesn't make everything all better.

My kids tried that when they were six. It didn't work then, and it doesn't work now.

You are judged by what you say and how say it.. that's why grammar, spelling and punctuation are important. But intent is even more important.

Making fun of people is never nice. It hurts and it hurts for a long, long time. And there is just never a good reason to do it.

Nice matters. It makes people feel good, about themselves, and about you. Is that really too much to ask?

I saw the following on someone's site and adopted it for my blog:

When stating your opinions, please ask yourself.....

Does this achieve the goal I intended?
Did this bring peace to anyone?
Did my comments hurt someone else?
Does my opinion change reality in any way?
Are my words helpful or hurtful?

Just because you can it say doesn't always mean you should.

"You Give a Little Love And It All Comes Back To You....
You will be remembered for the things you say and do."

And in this age of social media, that means forever....

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